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Coping With Memories


Of our memories this is your own body's way of coping. But in adult life these memories can return to us just as strong and as real as the day the event first took place.

They can be overwhelming and triggering and take you right back to that place you were at when the event first took place, sometimes you can still strongly smell and imagine everything as it was etc…

So that re-surfacing memories don’t take over the whole of your present life you need to learn to control them and cope with them.

This might not be easy but it is possible, you could try imagining a little box with a lid and placing your memory into the box and closing the lid, so when you want to visit the memory you can take it out of the box and face it when you are ready to do so and then after place it back into the little box. This isn’t easy but will prevent the memory from taking over you.

Also you when you have a memory come up you can imagine its taking place on a TV screen, you are in control and if you want to you can also change the ending to how you want it to end etc... It’s your memory (your TV programme) if you don’t like it re visit it and you have the power now as an adult to change it in your mind.
Talking to a professional body i.e. therapist/ counsellor etc can help a great deal to talk through the memories with you.

Try and tell yourself that as nasty as they might be they are in fact only memories and they can’t hurt you anymore. You are safe now.

Other suggestions:

  • Keep a diary of your mood and meds
  • Have a bath at candle light and just lay there, chill, and clear your mind
  • Call someone whether this is a friend or a crisis line and offload to them, they maybe able to help.
  • Don't like to chill? Then keep busy, this can give you less time to think.
  • Go out with friends, have a laugh see what life really has to offer. Maybe stay with one of them or family at particularly hard times.
  • Speak with your Mental Health Teams and make them understand.
  • Play a game or something to cheer yourself up (look at the fun pages)
  • Treat yourself to something and make yourself feel special as you are!






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